"The struggles of Friday Night Lights’ young women were most often seen through the eyes of Tami Taylor. Week after week, Coach Taylor endeavored to be a “molder of men.” But Coach Taylor’s role wasn’t unique. Beside him, Tami was a molder of women. Often laboring in her husband’s shadow in their football-mad town, she strove to help mend the broken sexual and emotional lives of Dillon’s young women. And in order to steer those women toward healthy choices, she had to steer herself away from echoing the widespread misogynist assumptions of her community. Tami’s status as feminist icon for viewers (New York’s NARAL chapter made “don’t mess with Tami” T-shirts) doesn’t come from an explicitly political or ideological stance she took—it would be strange to hear her call herself feminist or use words like “misogyny” or even “sexism.” Instead, Tami’s status comes from her own earned understanding that to help women, you cannot parrot degrading patriarchal language or assumptions. Whether she was comforting Lyla, who found herself in the position of school slut; navigating her daughter’s burgeoning sexuality (which Tami desperately wanted to delay); or, ultimately, in the show’s most explicitly feminist plot arc, sitting down to counsel a young woman seeking an abortion, Tami consistently chose empathy over being judgmental."

Smart Pop Books — “It’s Different for Girls”

My essay from “A Friday Night Lights Companion” is available for one week only at Smartpop books.

"The Innocents’ very first tableau — the image that Segal says inspired the project — exemplifies how effective her concept is. Wharton’s iconic opening scene has the protagonist Newland Archer training his opera glasses on Countess Olenska, the woman who will upend his life — sitting in the family box besides his future bride, May Welland. Segal deftly shifts this moment from the concert hall to the synagogue gallery, during the holiest, most somber night of the year, Kol Nidre. Our innocent hero, Adam, looks up from his davening to scan the women’s balcony and gaze with “certainty” upon his fiancée Rachel; beyond Rachel, he sees Ellie, Rachel’s American cousin, the family shonde, “exposing skin from clavicle to navel.” He is repelled yet intrigued; we are simply the latter. The certainty has ended for Adam; for the reader, the pleasure of a good story is beginning."

Los Angeles Review of Books - Looking Askance At The Goyim: Francesca Segal’s “The Innocents”

Very proud of this review in LARB!

LABA Journal #3 is out!

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YOU’RE NOT GOING TO EAT THAT?

2 Yet they seek Me daily, and delight to know My ways; as a nation that did righteousness, and forsook not the ordinance of their God, they ask of Me righteous ordinances, they delight to draw near unto God. 3 ‘Wherefore have we fasted, and Thou seest not? Wherefore have we afflicted our soul, and Thou takest no knowledge?’—Behold, in the day of your fast ye pursue your business, and exact all your labours.’ Isaiah 58

There is a deep-rooted human instinct to ritualize eating. Maybe it is your morning coffee, just the way you like it. Maybe it is your grandmother’s brisket, your only true moment of Shabbat transcendence. Maybe it is maintaining a careful separation between all things milk and all things meat, for reasons that you can’t quite rationalize. Or maybe it is a cold-pressed juice or a Pinot Grigio, quaffed in a search for a new truth.

The decisions about what we eat and what we don’t eat are rarely isolated ones. Instead, they are part of a larger attempt to create meaning in our lives and control the world around us. Through eating we punctuate our days, participate in moral systems, and express our vitality in the purest and most intuitive fashion available to us. I eat because I am. I am because I eat.

This ritualistic power of eating is precisely what gives not eating its might. Fasting is a way for humans to refresh and reboot, to break habits and to question our values. We deny ourselves food with the hope that our hunger will yield a sharper understanding of ourselves and the world we live in.

In this journal we look at the ritual of fasting, how it slows down time and empowers us all while denying us our might. Can we really change through fasting? Can fasting really change us?
 
Elissa Strauss 
Editor  
 
ESSAY: When Karen Hartman fasts, she feels. But is it true?
 
MUSIC: Like fasting, Amir Shpilman can slow down time.
 
FICTION: A fabulist short story from Sarah Seltzer about a woman whose juice cleanse goes too far.
 
ROCK MIDRASH: Stephen Hazan Arnoff on Bob Dylan and a tale of two Angelinas.
 
COMMENTARY: Basmat Hazan Arnoff on how fasting can empower the powerless.

Anniversary

I got hitched three years ago to this amazing guy. 

That summer, I wrote about balancing my ideals with the decision to marry:

"Daisy may not be the technical villain of Gatsby (Tom, a proto-bro, gets that honor) but she still sucks, and if it weren’t for her a couple key players in the book would be alive at the end of it. In her honor, here are the top 10 detestable characters of literature—a brief rundown of bad guys who aren’t the bad guys."

Daisy, You’re a Drip, Dear: Detestable Literary Characters Who Are Not Technically Villains | The Hairpin

Occasionally someone writes something I really wish I’d written. In this case Ester Bloom, dear friend of dear friends, has crafted a brilliant lit-list that hits on many of my faves.

rhrealitycheck:

Kathryn Joyce’s new look at the adoption industry, The Child Catchers: Rescue, Trafficking, and the New Gospel of Adoption, contains within its pages true horror stories. Perhaps most shockingly, the book details what appears to be the long-term abuse of a group of Liberian orphans “adopted” into a life of virtual slavery in Tennessee—starved, hit, manipulated, and isolated by “parents” practicing an extreme brand of back-to-the-land Christianity.
But Joyce, through intensive reporting around the world, also tells the stories of “orphans” who have actual families, even mothers, back home and who were adopted under false auspices, as well women in the United States who are manipulated into relinquishing children for adoption bycrisis pregnancy centers (CPCs).
Throughout the book, these dynamics of exploitation are recreated on a macro scale as the increasing drive for Westerners, often people of faith, to adopt orphans keeps feeding into, and off of, a global system of poverty, corruption, and mistreatment of women and children. Joyce’s work touches on bigger social issues, like the intersection of capitalism with reproduction, the role of religion in shaping policy, and the way conventional—and even inspirational—narratives of care and charity intersect with old paradigms of oppression and power.
Joyce recently spoke to RH Reality Check about how the movement she chronicles relates to abortion politics and the treatment of biological families of adoptees at home and abroad.Read more—>

Loved doing this Q+A.

rhrealitycheck:

Kathryn Joyce’s new look at the adoption industry, The Child Catchers: Rescue, Trafficking, and the New Gospel of Adoption, contains within its pages true horror stories. Perhaps most shockingly, the book details what appears to be the long-term abuse of a group of Liberian orphans “adopted” into a life of virtual slavery in Tennessee—starved, hit, manipulated, and isolated by “parents” practicing an extreme brand of back-to-the-land Christianity.

But Joyce, through intensive reporting around the world, also tells the stories of “orphans” who have actual families, even mothers, back home and who were adopted under false auspices, as well women in the United States who are manipulated into relinquishing children for adoption bycrisis pregnancy centers (CPCs).

Throughout the book, these dynamics of exploitation are recreated on a macro scale as the increasing drive for Westerners, often people of faith, to adopt orphans keeps feeding into, and off of, a global system of poverty, corruption, and mistreatment of women and children. Joyce’s work touches on bigger social issues, like the intersection of capitalism with reproduction, the role of religion in shaping policy, and the way conventional—and even inspirational—narratives of care and charity intersect with old paradigms of oppression and power.

Joyce recently spoke to RH Reality Check about how the movement she chronicles relates to abortion politics and the treatment of biological families of adoptees at home and abroad.

Read more—>

Loved doing this Q+A.